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8 Tips to Get the Most Out of Your Couples Massage

A New Kind of Date

Are you looking to shake up your old date-night routine? Would you like a fresh alternative to the typical noisy restaurant scene or the all-too-familiar sticky movie theater floors? A Couple’s Massage can be a fun and unique way to spend quality time with your significant other.

Picture this: You and your partner are in a peaceful setting, bathed in soft light, surrounded by calming scents and music that soothes your mind and takes the edge off. Now imagine a highly skilled licensed massage therapist stepping in and providing you and your partner with a professional massage using a variety of techniques that hit the right spots. This session is  tailored exactly to your preferences and needs. Sounds pretty great, right?

This is what a couple's massage is all about. It's not just another night out; it's an experience. A chance to really relax, connect on a deeper level, and treat yourselves a little. It's about turning your quality time up a notch.

In this post, we will go over the basics of a Couple's Massage and 8 ways to get the most out of your couple's Massage experience.

A young couple getting a Couple's Massage.

What Is a Couple’s Massage?

If your partner is hesitant to try a couple’s massage, it could be because they are unsure of what to expect during this type of massage. During a Couple’s Massage, two people receive massages from two different therapists at the same time in the same room. This type of shared experience can be a unique opportunity to strengthen the bond between partners.

8 Tips to Get the Most Out of Your Couples Massage

Here are a few tips to ensure a deeply satisfying and memorable massage session for you and your partner. With these tips, you can create a more connected, intimate, and enriching couples massage experience, deepening the bond between you and your partner.

1. Setting Expectations and Boundaries

The first, and arguably the most important, step is to talk about what you both want out of the experience. It's about laying all your cards on the table: your hopes, any worries, and where your comfort zones are. This kind of open dialogue ensures you're both in sync and looking forward to the massage for all the right reasons.

A sign asking What To Expect?

A Couple’s Massage is so much more than just indulging in a bit of pampering side by side. It's about sharing an experience that's deeply personal and connecting on a level that's hard to match with other activities. This shared journey has the power to strengthen bonds, enhance understanding, and even open new channels of communication between partners. It's fascinating how something as simple as a massage can play such a significant role in enriching the dynamics of a relationship.

2. Choosing the Right Setting

Choosing the right setting for a Couple's Massage can make all the difference.  It's all about finding that perfect spot where both you and your partner feel completely at ease and connected. The ambiance can be a game-changer. It's not just about the massage itself; it's about creating an environment that envelops you in warmth and romance.

A candlelit massage therapy Couple's Massage room.

At Proactive, our Couple’s Massage Suite is not your average treatment room. Picture this: a room where the glow of a cozy fireplace meets the flicker of candlelight, creating this soft, warm ambiance that just invites you to relax. Then there is the music—soft instrumental renditions of love songs that just have a way of reaching into your soul, with the air filled with the delicate aroma of essential oils. Each element is carefully chosen to play on your senses, making every moment of the experience something truly special and memorable.

It's these thoughtful touches that transform a simple massage into an intimate journey, enhancing not just the physical but also the emotional connection between you and your partner.

 3. What To Wear For Your  Couple’s Massage? 

First and foremost, it's all about comfort. Think loose-fitting, comfy clothes that make you feel at ease—like your favorite pair of sweatpants or yoga pants and a soft tee. If it's a bit chilly, feel free to opt for long pants. Just maybe skip the jeans, as they can be a bit restrictive. Once you're in the massage room, you'll have the option to undress to your level of comfort. Some folks prefer to keep their underwear on, while others go completely bare under the provided sheet

Man looking through his closet to decide what to wear to your massage.

and blanket. Keep in mind that you will always be appropriately covered throughout the entire massage session. Your therapist will ensure that your modesty is always maintained. The key here is to do whatever makes you feel most comfortable, so you can fully relax and enjoy the experience with your partner. Remember, the therapists are professionals who are there to make you both feel relaxed and cared for, so wear what helps you achieve that zen state of mind.

4. To Talk or Not to Talk During Your Couples Massage

A conversation with your partner or your massage therapist during your Couple’s Massage is certainly acceptable. It is completely up to you to set the tone of your massage session. Couple's can use the session to catch up and chat, or they can choose to simply relax and enjoy their

A couple getting a couple's massage while talking to each other.

shared experience in peaceful silence. With or without conversation, the shared experience brings couples closer together. The key here is to check in with your partner beforehand. After all, you're in this together, and aligning on whether you're up for a chit-chat or prefer a quiet time can make all the difference in enjoying your shared massage experience.

If you would prefer to not talk but are uncomfortable telling your massage therapist, at Proactive we offer a complimentary add-on called the Silent Bliss Massage. This massage enhancement is the perfect way to let your massage therapist know that you prefer not to talk, all without saying a word.

5. Deepen Your Bond With Your Partner

A man and woman hugging and smiling.

Massage is known to do more than just soothe your tired muscles. It kickstarts a whole cascade of wellness inside your body. As the massage therapist works on your muscles, your system begins to release serotonin and endorphins—nature's own mood boosters. These hormones are the body's way of dialing down stress and anxiety, bringing about a profound sense of peace and well-being. What's really special is going through this journey side-by-side with your partner. It's not just about lying beside them on adjacent tables; it's about synchronizing into a state of shared tranquility that's hard to achieve in the hustle and bustle of everyday life.

This shared experience isn't just about the time spent together; it's a pathway to a deeper connection. It's like, through every stroke and knead, you're being brought closer together, not just physically but on an emotional level too. So, it's not just a massage—it's an intimate journey of relaxation and reconnection that you both can take together, deepening your bond. 

6. Experiment with Techniques

Be open to exploring new massage techniques together. This not only makes the experience educational but also allows you to discover what best suits your relaxation needs as a couple. 

A few examples of techniques we recommend that you try: 

Hot Stones: Embrace a luxurious sensory escape as smooth, heated stones glide across your body. The penetrating heat of the basalt stones serves as a therapeutic journey designed to deeply soothe muscles, boost circulation, and promote relaxation. Surrender to the warmth and rediscover balance with our custom Hot Stone Massage. 

Four different pictures of Hot Stone Massage, Dry Brushing Massage, Scalp Massage, and Foot Massage for couples.

Dry Brushing: Dry Brushing Therapy is designed to revitalize and exfoliate, utilizing a natural-bristle brush in a specific technique that flows toward the heart, promoting lymph flow and circulation. This exfoliating and stimulating treatment sweeps away dead skin cells, boosts circulation, and assists your body's natural immune system.

Scalp Massage: Our soothing lavender hair treatment is perfect for those seeking relaxation and stress relief, while our invigorating rosemary hair growth treatment is designed to promote healthy, luscious locks. You'll enjoy a rejuvenating experience that leaves you feeling refreshed and revitalized from head to toe. 

Soleful Foot Massage: This 30-minute treatment begins with a foot and lower leg massage, which relaxes tight muscles and relieves daily stress placed on your tired, achy feet and legs. Following is our creamy sugar scrub, which gently exfoliates, revealing your healthy, glowing skin. The treatment concludes with a focused massage using our nourishing foot cream and hot towel treatment designed to deeply hydrate severely dry skin. 

7. Set Your Intentions

Starting off a massage session by setting intentions with your partner is a

A couple sitting on the couch talking about their intentions.

powerful way to enhance the experience. It's like laying the groundwork for what you both want to achieve from the session—be it relaxation, healing, or simply spending quality time together. Take a few deep breaths together to sync up your breathing. It's a beautiful moment of unity. Next, focus on being fully present. It's so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day hustle and forget to really 'be' in the moment with your partner. By intentionally engaging in the experience, you create this bubble where it's just the two of you, connecting on a deep level. It's these small acts—breathing in unison, setting shared goals, and committing to be present—that foster a stronger bond, intimacy, and trust between you two.

It turns the massage from a simple physical experience into something much more meaningful. It's not just about physical relaxation but also about nurturing your relationship and showing care and understanding for each other in a unique way.

8. Aftercare

After a rejuvenating massage, it's not just about going back to the daily grind. Spend some quiet time together, hydrate well, and maybe plan a light activity or meal. We suggest extending your experience by scheduling an infrared sauna session for two. It's like wrapping yourselves in a warm, cozy blanket of relaxation that not only feels amazing but also brings you closer together.

A man and woman sitting in a sauna together.

While relaxing in the sauna, it’s the perfect time to dive a little deeper into conversations that will help you get to know each other better. Asking about favorite childhood memories or those dream dinner guests can spark some really meaningful chats.

These conversations can really strengthen the bond between you, giving you new insights into each other's lives and dreams. So, it's not just about physical relaxation but also about nurturing your connection on a deeper level.

Not Your Average Date Night

In wrapping up, remember that a couple's massage is more than just a shared relaxation experience; it's an opportunity to deepen your connection and enhance your well-being together. By following these eight tips, you're setting the stage for a truly memorable and rejuvenating experience with your partner. 


Are you ready to transform your relationship and enjoy all the benefits of a couple's massage? Reach out to the experts at Proactive Massage + Bodywork. With over 20 years of experience in providing personalized and therapeutic massages, we're here to ensure your session is everything you've dreamed of and more.

Don't wait to start this journey of relaxation and connection—call us today at (804) 559-7990 to schedule your Couple's Massage and discover the difference it can make in your life and relationship.


A collage of services at Proctive, Massage Therapy, Red Light Therapy, Compression Therapy, Laser Therapy, Infrared Sauna


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